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Apr 22, 2017 22:19:54 GMT
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Post by Source on Apr 22, 2017 22:19:54 GMT
My dad died on the 17th, he was 81.
He caught the flu, which quickly turned into blood poisoning (sepsis) on March 31. He was on oxygen and was suffering from sepsis induced delirium, and had also been hit very hard by the flu, (and then pnumoia) and I was informed that he would have to be put in a skilled nursing facility for rehabilitation : his muscles and nervous system would have to be retrained, to walk, to feed himself, to dress himself, etc...For more than 6 months. He was transferred to the palliative care team and for two weeks they continued treating him - he was delirus, would pull out his iv, or his oxygen, he was in a lot of pain and the staff would ask me how long he had dementia..
My dad cared for himself, he cooked and cleaned his memory was intact up to the day he went in to the hospital, I figured out the delirium, in the end but also found out that he may have some long term damage from the sepsis, on top of everything else... In the 14th I got a call that his breathing hhad was worsening, then another another call that night be and the next morning about it....
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Post by ben on Apr 22, 2017 22:54:42 GMT
Hey Source,
i don't know what to say. I've had almost 20 years to cope with the death of my own father and to this day I still think about him daily, what we could've experienced together. fuck.
Sending you strength brother.
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Apr 22, 2017 23:21:58 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2017 23:21:58 GMT
Wishing you strength during this time source.
Words are inefficient during such a time when given as comfort. My father passed away little over 20 years ago as well.
Feel free to reminisce, talk, rant or whatever you'd like here. It can all help
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Post by ben on Apr 23, 2017 0:21:58 GMT
Yep, talking or writing helps the grieving process tremendously. I only really started working through it 10 years after he died. To this day I have not grieved with my family together. Guy was 46. Lel, he actually showed me a real UFO once, I remember it like it was yesterday. Middle of the night he gets me out of the kidsroom and takes me into the backyard. I was sitting on his arm, maybe 3 years old. A huuge Light appeared and flew over our neighbourhood for a couple of minutes. Will never forget this. He even visited me late 2015, came into my room, stayed for a while and left. Haha, sounds stupid, but it was heaven on earth. ahhh tears.. xD  <3 |
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Apr 23, 2017 2:18:31 GMT
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Post by Source on Apr 23, 2017 2:18:31 GMT
Thank you Sol and Ben.
I don't want to say I am glad about your losses, but I am glad that you are okay with talking about it some... I am going into town tonight to see some friends; the rainbows should be vivid starting about 10pm pst - in memory of my dad.
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Apr 23, 2017 2:19:40 GMT
Post by Source on Apr 23, 2017 2:19:40 GMT
My dad died on the 17th, he was 81. He caught the flu, which quickly turned into blood poisoning (sepsis) on March 31. He was on oxygen and was suffering from sepsis induced delirium, and had also been hit very hard by the flu, (and then pnumoia) and I was informed that he would have to be put in a skilled nursing facility for rehabilitation : his muscles and nervous system would have to be retrained, to walk, to feed himself, to dress himself, etc...For more than 6 months. He was transferred to the palliative care team and for two weeks they continued treating him - he was delirus, would pull out his iv, or his oxygen, he was in a lot of pain and the staff would ask me how long he had dementia.. My dad cared for himself, he cooked and cleaned his memory was intact up to the day he went in to the hospital, I figured out the delirium, in the end but also found out that he may have some long term damage from the sepsis, on top of everything else... In the 14th I got a call that his breathing hhad was worsening, then another another call that night be and the next morning about it.... I will finish this soon, I have to go right now.. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2017 2:31:07 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss, Source. My father is 72 and suffers from dementia, diabetes, formerly from cancer, high blood pressure - you name it. He was a sergeant in psyops in the US Army and what a job they did on him - sigh. He was also exposed to Agent Orange in Vietnam. I flew with my sister to Florida to get him this past October. He lives with me now, and it's so sad to see his decline. :-( I work from home and am able to take care of him for now, and I hope for a few more years.
I feel the pain of your loss. I feel like I've lost my dad to a point already. I'm just trying to keep him happy and comfortable now.
Take care of yourself, Source. I'm sure your father loved you dearly and wishes for you to continue being healthy and happy. <3
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Apr 23, 2017 3:21:07 GMT
Post by Super Shekels Productions on Apr 23, 2017 3:21:07 GMT
Wow.
Source, I am so sorry.
I'm here for you anytime you need to talk.
- CM
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Apr 23, 2017 3:59:37 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2017 3:59:37 GMT
So sorry for your loss, Source. Wishing you comfort and strength, during this difficult time.
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Apr 24, 2017 23:19:46 GMT
Post by Source on Apr 24, 2017 23:19:46 GMT
thank you everyone for your kind words - I am still in the middle of the dealing with cremation and burial and all that...
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Apr 24, 2017 23:57:37 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2017 23:57:37 GMT
thank you everyone for your kind words - I am still in the middle of the dealing with cremation and burial and all that... Wow - you are standing up for your father, making difficult decisions and serving as the new patriarch of your family. It is a serious responsibility but a sacred one. Bless you and may you stand strong for yourself and your family. <3 |
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Apr 26, 2017 6:54:19 GMT
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Post by Source on Apr 26, 2017 6:54:19 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss, Source. My father is 72 and suffers from dementia, diabetes, formerly from cancer, high blood pressure - you name it. He was a sergeant in psyops in the US Army and what a job they did on him - sigh. He was also exposed to Agent Orange in Vietnam. I flew with my sister to Florida to get him this past October. He lives with me now, and it's so sad to see his decline. :-( I work from home and am able to take care of him for now, and I hope for a few more years. I feel the pain of your loss. I feel like I've lost my dad to a point already. I'm just trying to keep him happy and comfortable now. Take care of yourself, Source. I'm sure your father loved you dearly and wishes for you to continue being healthy and happy. <3 Thank you Andrea, my goes out to you... It is still something that few people are willing or able to do, and much harder than these incredible human beings admit to others... |
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Apr 26, 2017 8:12:50 GMT
Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2017 8:12:50 GMT
My commiserations to you Source, sending you energy and strength in these difficult times.
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Apr 26, 2017 16:00:06 GMT
Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2017 16:00:06 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss, Source. My father is 72 and suffers from dementia, diabetes, formerly from cancer, high blood pressure - you name it. He was a sergeant in psyops in the US Army and what a job they did on him - sigh. He was also exposed to Agent Orange in Vietnam. I flew with my sister to Florida to get him this past October. He lives with me now, and it's so sad to see his decline. :-( I work from home and am able to take care of him for now, and I hope for a few more years. I feel the pain of your loss. I feel like I've lost my dad to a point already. I'm just trying to keep him happy and comfortable now. Take care of yourself, Source. I'm sure your father loved you dearly and wishes for you to continue being healthy and happy. <3 Thank you Andrea, my goes out to you... It is still something that few people are willing or able to do, and much harder than these incredible human beings admit to others... Yes, many times I ask the question - if not me, then who? We take care of each other - and we start with those closest to us and move outward. That's how we make the world a better place I guess - by caring enough to act on it. It's kind of scary because you aren't sure if you can handle it, but when I think of the alternative, the choice is clear. And we can all handle a lot more than we think. We are amazing - we humans - at adapting to our circumstances. :-) |
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Apr 28, 2017 3:24:09 GMT
Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2017 3:24:09 GMT
My condolences to you Source. Losing a loved one is tough, real tough. We are all survivors of sorts as we age and our physical parts give way to this existence. May your father always be with you, through memory and through the veil.
Much love to you.
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