Woman of Stars Serenade

It is you! ;-)

Thanks for asking :-)

I had an experience with a new kind of "romantic" love. It was a connection with another that had all aspects of intimacy, but without the sex part, as she does not find intercourse all that great for her. She even admitted that she was mostly asexual with sporadic urges though rarely. Her sex drive seemed more based on pleasing a partner's needs than satisfying any sexual need of her own.

All of my prior relationships had usually the sex drive embedded in the relationship, at least at the beginning. I was fairly convinced that sex (referring to intercourse) was a key component to achieving a level of intimacy with someone that cannot be achieved other ways. For me, the closest I have ever felt to another always included the regular physical connection during sex achieved during the timeless moments of physically within someone and them allowing me physically within them. In this union, in this equal sharing of pleasure, I would find my spiritual connection to the other person heightened.

However, in this relationship (which we had to end recently because of her living half way around the world and different life paths), I experienced the heightened spiritual connection and "romantic" love without the need for intercourse. There was a lot of other intimacy - kissing, hugging, cuddling, touching, words of love - but not the sex part. I am still processing it all, but this journey taught me something new about "romantic" relationships and the sexuality of others. It also taught me to rethink and re-feel my own feelings and approaches to relationships.

I have this part of me that desires to still find my soul mate or twin flame. I have waited for 7 years (out of a relationship), until this last (quite brief, long distance) relationship, for the universe to connect me and this soul mate who I believe exists out there. I am hoping that my new learning and my new perspective towards intimacy and sex is preparing me for her. I know something has changed within me and it feels like growth spiritually at the moment. On a practical level, I know that if SHE is out there, I am now more fully prepared for her and what we can give to each other to support one another in a healthy way both physically and spiritually. Time will tell as they say.

Also, when I say intercourse above, I don't mean it as clinical as it sounds. I consider it quite non-clinical, but a spiritual/physical sublimeness that bridges the gap between the Aether and the Material for moments of time/non-time. Love-energy-making would be the term I would use best to describe my meaning.

I recently watched Say Anything for the first time...loved it. Not sure if you noticed Diane’s Theory of Convergence but it was really interesting. Sense there is truth to it, too. I didn’t realize that In Your Eyes was featured in the movie. Such a wonderful song :-)

phoeniX, can I trust you?

Because these sites seem like sting operations set up to see which can bait and reel in the biggest fish. It seems like friendly or not-so-friendly competition amongst sister sites, with prizes and glory on the line. I may not be privy to the bigger picture as of yet, but it would be nice to come across a worthy, true-hearted soul with integrity participating for loftier, more noble reasons. Are you this one? Can you help me? You can be honest with me, and I will be okay as long as I am dealt with honestly.